A couple of weeks ago I wrote a post about how truly understanding your self-worth is vital to your happiness. Since, I have been mulling over the question, “Can you love yourself and fully understand your self-worth if you don’t truly know yourself?” Knowing yourself is the key to living a wholehearted life. It is pretty hard to live wholeheartedly when you are living a life that is defined by others. We are constantly tying ourselves to other people and things. Those other people are usually our family, friends, or significant others. The things commonly being our jobs, money or phones/computers. Don’t get me wrong, I am aware how unmistakably easy it is to get wrapped up in all of that. I guess what I am trying to say is – it gets scary when you suddenly wake up one day and realize that you have become a person that you don’t even know anymore. Or even worse, you realize you don’t like the person that you have slowly become.
There is a multitude of quizzes and assessments you can easily access on the internet (and I have no shame in admitting that I have taken practically all of them) that help you in understanding the type of person that you are. I think that it is imperative that you not only listen to the results from these tests, but you also ask yourself some pretty important and difficult questions. Questions are extremely powerful because they demand answers. Sometimes the most clarity is found through the messiest questions – the times where we are frantically searching to find the right answer. The silence that comes after the deep questions is the game changer. It is when we are sifting through our thoughts and trying to make sense of what we are thinking, we find extreme senses of realization, inspiration and recognition. The results that come from the silence are our ‘aha moments’.
Perhaps you are feeling lost, or you need some certainty on what direction your life is heading? Maybe your life is needing stability and balance? In whatever case, you have stumbled upon this post and I challenge you to grab yourself a good ol’ fashioned pen and paper and jot some of these questions down. Truly think about them and examine your thoughts when you are searching for an answer. Hopefully they will help in triggering some of your own ‘aha moments’.
1. What do I feel passionate about?
2. Am I ignoring something that I know needs my attention?
3. How can I be more present in day-to-day life?
4. Where am I holding back compassion?
5. Do I try to manipulate others to get my needs met?
6. Do I feel unworthy? Why?
7. How do I help others in becoming better people?
8. What needs do I have that aren’t getting met?
9. What brings me true joy?
10. What relationships with loved ones need nurturing, attention or mending?
11. What relationships am I holding on to that need to be let go of?
12. How much time do I spend obsessing about things from the past?
13. How much time do I spend caught up in other people’s problems?
14. Am I surrounding myself with people who lift me higher? If not, why?
15. How do I want to be remembered? Am I living a life that reflects that?